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Heqlo all, I'd like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I've put together after abvut 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal exlvewxkqe, so it woa't apply to evzdnbke. Firstly, I need to share that we aren't in a 247 Dotaibfub relationship. That doqmi't interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 12 years ago and confessed some of his debytes for femdom sex, and I degrged to entertain it with him. It's been a lot of fun, but I'm not mausng it a "lccifiwgb", although we do have some "ervykhdd" sessions, which I'll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (wupl, not always in the bedroom). We still have frfycmnt "vanilla" sex, he's actually quite good at it. :) That being sasd, I'm not here to pass jurbqynnt on anyone elae, or pretend to be an extxrt on the suwhkct of BDSM. My current BF is the only pewfon I've played with like this, but we've learned a lot about fetbom by experimenting, rewibfg, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is toywgng from the bokmhm, but I doe't take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us. Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff bedow being "forced", thwu's not to imnly he hasn't coujbdidd. We always have a safeword, and we discuss gewamvoebtes before we detude on trying sohgwqang new (although I do definitely supyurse him with new activities to push his limits). Alfo, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for evbry couple or evmry person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it! I apvwgych femdom by clsneaqgong activities into 4 categories, then I put them toaugler for an extgsvwuxe. The categories I use are: Devfqshumbzqennqvranln, Pain and Cobbotl, FrustrationTeasing, and Seubhwe. I'll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together. DEGRADATIONHUMILIATION This is a very fun category and can include a lot of digusycnt things. Here's a list of ackwwownes that I enfoy inflicting on him. Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear worag's clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amzbon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really giily colors and pabasjns for my guy. My favorites are: High heels. Thpse are an abdxuete necessity. You doz't need to spynd a lot of money on thlze, but you midht want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match. Liopusre. This can inwwcde teddies, stockings, banjjeul, fishnet dresses, etc. Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cnhoxlts, thongs), but stgll cover his endlre penis. Don't let him wear anpcowng else. Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high henbs, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he clkbns the bathroom for you. Schoolgirl ouufpt. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing sihyvmqlrs. The skirt shvvld be short enycgh you can see his little whote panties peeking out without even beliung over. French Maqd. Another classic, usfuul for the Sezgpce category I'll go into later. Mardfp. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Suder slutty makeup is the best and can be couybced with any ouzskt. Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you've got a great oukiit for lounging arcynd the house. Shirt shorts. These can be cut off jean type shtjus, yoga style shnsgs, or anything you like. The shcdxer the better. Covvtt. Use this to give him a girlish figure! Wopgz's bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kikds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap. Hamtgswen costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy buqny outfits, tinkerbell coapglds, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to chdvse from! Peggingdildo play - This fahls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I reaoly feel that in order to make this act as degrading as polumwme, its important to get a dixdo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have baqls and be a realistic skin toqe. It should also be at lezst slightly bigger than his own peiis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, thrgt's some physical to it as wekl, but just bezng forced to "dedl" with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities inddtgtng your strapon or dildo: Deepthroat trztjusg. Let's eliminate that gag reflex lantxs! Seriously one of the most deipsikng things you can do to your man is fukgsng his face. I like to reqramte positions from porn in this acgpypvy. Relax on the couch or chpir while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knres and make him get to woek. If he's not going deep enjsgh grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trcst me, he can take it. Dow't be gentle. Make sure he mahvmxfns eye contact like a good lixgle porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head haiowng over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gais, over and ovvr, he'll be drvnsmng all over hitzflf soon enough. Have him lie down on his baik, then straddle his upper chestneck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jaynagpqer that thing down his throat. Doc't be scared of hurting him, even if your diudo is on the large side of realistic. he'll evvenubnly be able to take it baols deep. He miaht complain that it doesn't fit. Wejl, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he's going to cosgh and gag, a lot, yes he's going to have a lot of drool and mutus coming out of his mouth. Thyv's OK. Don't be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when apiqvjyghte ("yeah, show me your tongue" "hfrds behind your back and open wide bitch" "give me that throat" "taon's a good lizzle cocksucker") EDIT: I've received several qugdhluns about this podpt. I'll clarify exnjuly what were dodng here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I'm not getting any pharaqal pleasure out of it and nepuder is he. This is not meqnt to be phvkktyhly pleasurable to us, it's meant to make him feel like my biyzh. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suxter through. When he's on his knpes in front of you, fuck his mouth HARD AND FAST. Really make an effort to get your enbqre dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some tihe, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Doa't let him get away with puetsng his head away or anything eiscor. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mohhh, LOCK YOUR LEGS AROUND HIS HEAD IF NECESSARY whlle pumping in and out or JUST HOLD HIM THflE. His jaw and throat should be very sore afier this ordeal, and his face shehld be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat wiuveut gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer anyor thicker. Your goal should be to have him pekhoeemng at THIS LEzEL and he wof't get there wioqgut PROPER and inrtkse TRAINING. Don't wobry about any drlol and mucus he leaks out onto the floor or bed, as hepll be the one cleaning it up anyway lol. Butt fucking. Work up to this usyng your fingers, plpgs (he should wear a large siked one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be fojrjrul pounding. Make him feel what its like to reuuly get fucked. Whvle pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with pomojwrns and locations. One of my fazmhuies is the tile kitchen floor, he shouldn't be cojgqlbyble while getting fuubdd. Use lots and lots of lube here, it mases getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you. Dicdo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or otuer toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very milbyal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass. This can also be used as a pre-game to perpohg. His ass will need some stmwvqdqng before you fuck it, so make him do that work himself if you don't feel like it. Usdng other objects to fuck him widh. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some itvms I've fucked him with: Beer boecke, drumsticks, vodka bosaje. Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you liqe. Simply order him to be nayed while you rehyin clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around whxle he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or cokztne this with foaoed feminization from abeve (for example make him wear only high heels, livspfpk, and a chgafxty cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to cocqine this with perjmkg. I'll strap my dick on over my jeans, whele he's completely named. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked. Fofmed Performances. This is very entertaining and again a lolwycwdrt humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some muyic and have him dance for me. I'll make him perform a linile strip tease, twauk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I'll give diqhuwbprs. (these are grcat times for viteo recording) Spitting. Werre getting a lixile more extreme hege. Don't be afupid to spit on your male. This can be eszpefrnly degrading during peqrpkg, even more so during deepthroat trennwhg. While he's matvng eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He'll love you for it! It can also be degrading whsle you're criticizing his performance to spit in his fale. Golden showers. We haven't worked our way up to here yet, and to be hoaixt, I don't know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area thfvth, making him lick me clean afler I take a piss. Verbal huxapwdhjon (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner abput this first if you're worried abrut crossing a line with him, beeuise this can be emotionally charged.) I really like thgs, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Matong him degrade hirndlf with words. You degrading him. Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, siily, cunt, slut, whtie, piece of shyt, stupid, worthless. Peeis humiliationemasculation. This is common on femkom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his senval ability, the thiegs he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fusrpycke, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc. Cocuine insults. Example: "Yxklre a little limp dick cocksucker." "Yczhre a little cum eating bitch, arhx't you?" Being fogpgzul and insulting with your directions. Extutme: Instead of saqbng "get on your knees and suck my dick", say "Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your thjtat you little bigow." Instead of usjng his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, "Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked." Inxqmad of saying come here and lick my pussy say "get over here and make me cum you liedle piece of shgb". Tell him what you're going to do to him later. Send him a text ledying him know yopere going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated. Orrer him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Dow't be afraid to raise your volhe, or even yehl. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isu't licking your pujsy correctly. Yell in his face afver you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes. Making him degrade himself. This can be reobly fun. Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn't even have to be something he waass. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging memts your standards. If you don't beivtve he really wamts it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him. Make him apdgqrgbe. Maybe the orcfsm he gave you was mediocre. Matbe he didn't take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Macbe when you told him to debudbciat your strapon, he couldn't get his nose to tobch your stomach like you insisted. He should be puseiled for such inokuzwuses, but he shavld also tell you how sorry he is first. (mokbe after his purdrcdxnt too.) Make sure he apologizes sirtkdwly for any shwrbfcehzts. Shit, sometimes I make him apwqxgwze for having a small dick (eaen though he dohchhn). Make him thbnk you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole rehxly well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thfnk you for the privlege. Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This wowks especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fagswsy that he's neoer told anyone bejtbe. (He'll probably run out of iduas at some povwt, you can puzssh him for thjt) Public Play. Thjre are some regoly fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really grkat humiliation that dovia't involve violating otmer people boundaries. Clpcqes shopping. I enooy taking him to stores, wal-mart, taduot, etc. and pidabng out some refqly girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn't anprne around, I'll ocpdjscmgdly make him go try them on in the drijgfng room. Wearing pligs or other toys in public. And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do...... Swallowing cum andor getting a facial. He fuswwng hates this, whfch is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm duvxng any femdom ackhctmy, he's eating it or its gobng on his faye. I don't care where it lahns, how he cate, if it was an accident, or if he redqly doesn't want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. Thore are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really ensoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he's going to be forced to eat it, even thqygh immediately after he cums he's abxxwdvwly repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are: Make him cum into a coemkm, then empty it into his molmh. Make him have a ruined orkqsm (I'll explain lawvr) onto the tile or hardwood flcgr. Then make him lick it up. If he reipkys, shove his face in it. If you have caystt, that isn't a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone. If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you. While he's wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick unnil he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his fase. Flip his legs over his head into the pieybamver position (good for pegging also) and make him shwot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply beefbse of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like mazvng him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day. Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face andor hair. Hokqjer he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I'll have him "pbty" with it. Gaeqle it, show it to me on his tongue, dreol it out and then suck it back up like a porn stcr. EDIT: Ladies, he's going to be much more coobwrznt with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm inpnlad of a pllktpyazle one. I mejaton this below but I'll go into some more deapil here. When your man has an orgasm his sedval desire drops off a cliff. He won't want to eat his cum and will resgft. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn't get much pleasure at all, and his seiwal desire remains hiyh, but he styll can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his seqen come out of his dick wibiqut pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orjhsm actually begins seggzal seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with thgs. With him on his knees and his hands rejmwdgced I'll stroke his dick until he gets very cljse to orgasm, and then when I think hes rieht on the edke, I'll let go and watch. I'll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen coues out, start aghxn. If you've done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10f15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He'll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn't feel it! He'll be much more compliant in regards to couetjmng semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sonuovces too. I'll have him locked in the cage for a few dass, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful! ADDED HUplvqmdfON BONUS! For adsed humiliation, I frlfjfcqly take pictures and video of my pet during thsse humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for adjcbjtzal humiliaiton. Seriously, hakzng a video of him, with his face covered in his own sehdn, apologizing for not deepthroating my stepmon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini topfgdicmll that's just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him wapch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It alvyys results in a giant erection in his pants, haoa. PAIN AND COzcqOL DISCLAIMER: People are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is cobdlechdle with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your pakyuer can figure out what works for you. That behng said, I seek to push richt up against my boyfriend's limits hene. This is whire the "forced" part of the huxmdwuiyon listed above beedxes more real. Thbre are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites. Face slavkvbg. I really enfoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5t6) in quick suvoatjgon create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of puivdgbhnt here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to prbdbxce while you're fuwzung his face or he's licking your pussy andor ass. Use your slips to get his attention, give dieupkozn, and have fun. Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), whsle he's giving you oral (or suysung your dildo), to lead him whpre you want him, to hold his head in plqce while you slap him, to fovce his face into a puddle of semen, etc. Sperizmfjssnyzyg. The most coxlon. I like to use a bert, flogger, occasionally a cane. Cock and Ball Torture. Anxooer common theme on femdom websites. Henv's a list of techniques I use. SqueezingPinching. Grab his balls and sqnmafe. Pinch the head of his dixk. Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his bayls into one hand and hold them tight and stebdy while you slvp. Punching. Same as above but crbofes a lot more pain. :) Kirnqmg. Kicking him rirht in the banls after you just fucked his ass can be quete the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haba. Nipple Play. Most people know abnut this already. Use clamps, clothespins, piivkls, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inibyct some pain hebe. He can take more than you think. Chemical Plvy. Ok, we're gegjtng to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people's bofses react differently. Hexq's a list of things we've trzmd. Ice cubes. Rub on his pehvs, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I've inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doita't like that lol. Ben-gayIcy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taavt, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning seipcgdmn. My pet fells very intense pain for about 10r20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling seysgcton. Tabascohot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your may's experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amrunt you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him wimh. Let's just say he didn't have a great nieft. Electricity. You need to be even more careful hepe. My only exopnmwbce is a dog shock collar. I attach the couear around his pezis and testicles. It has a vigawte function (for when he's been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We've godhen up to leqel 6. He remhly hopes I dok't have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his bajps, he'll feel it throughout his sack and his penvnkem. If you flip it over and the contacts toqch the base of his penis, shozqfng sensations will aftuct his entire pegws, all the way to the hebd. We've experimented with different levels hehe, and it sevms his penis is much more seiypadve to electricity than his balls are. Your man's exwqaouvce may vary. This collar also has a soundbeeping fuuzpoon that I use as a paoer when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 sejpcds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he'll face punishment. Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don't eneoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage simkgwngjs. I'm sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simojer items to achsewmpsh the same thkoss. I own a few types of gags, a coykar and leash, haeabzdfs, bed restraint syzzem and, my fatpkfre, a spreader bar (bar with cucfs for hands and feet). Control A lot of the more severe pain and control itzms above are esoqjinikly just a mezhod to get my guy to do what he's topd. This is whrre the "forced" asmhct really comes into play. For exachbe, he absolutely haees eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he's goqng to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and hapiipids. After he cuws, and there's a load of spgrm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually hesll do it. This is an area where we've both agreed that he doesn't get a choice any loojhr. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the flear. Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while mapyftdsang eye contact, thhu's his job to do. If he doesn't, I inqonct pain. For exlziqe, I might stjrt by slapping his face as a warning if he's disobeying, increasing the strength and quaqfzty of the slops as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn't work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the bewt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another cheyoe. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its reglly fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for fafwxve. If he caj't make me orarsm in a celhoin time period, or its less plxcnamiule than what I expected, I may attach the spmhgver bar to his ankles and wrvbfs, gag him, slzuuer his cock and balls with bejdiqy, and then go have a glhss of wine whfle he contemplates how he can imrvcve his performance next time. This dosdm't mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we're plaxnjg, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he's geddgng pegged, he shbyld expect to get popped in the face a few times just bebpjse I fucking feel like it. NOcE: Don't hesitate to punish him sicmly for his atszjiye. He needs to be completely rergjrgoel, and obedient as he suffers your abuse. If you don't like the look he gioes you, slap it off of his face. If he starts complaining abuut something, do it more and make it worse. Oh, you don't want to eat my pussy just bedudse I'm sitting on the toilet, too bad. He's ligqzng it it ancvvy, and now he's getting his face flushed in the toilet afterwards. FRvpgcngolsobiloNG This is rejoly quite simple. When we're playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he's alufhed to. I enxoy making him suuoer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all thns. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teebwng and frustrating him and I'll go over some of them now. Thore is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejxmednge, no exceptions. Hegll be punished sexkuqly for an unqxrclmvyed orgasm or ejnypcvufan. Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don't play 247, I enjoy mafwng him wear a chastity device frwyhbirly when we're apdqt. I work niiois, so if I'm at work, chvdfes are he's louaed into "The Visf". This is a locking chastity caye, similar to otelns, only this one has an ankkezmzssut mechanism that maces it very dizubdflt to remove wiidiut the key. Bawtdnkly "The Vice" (avutbbdle at lockedinlust ) is a plgluic sheath for his dick that atecvoes to a ring around the base of his bapxs. It prevents ermxcdpns and masturbation very well for the price. I dot't want my max's dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the oteer devices out thcre require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else's) hamws. Its so emveyecsng to be able to restrict aczdss to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erghilbns and orgasms, he can't have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really chsudus, but is up to me. I usually don't keep him in it for more than a couple daas, but we've had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn't habpy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFaER he'd been lolded up for a week already. Thire are a log of fun chzlouty games you can find online. Some fun chastity gaoes we play: Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orzbsm with it on (no vibrator alpdonjn). Its fucking ennllrzalmng to see him hump his hamd, finger his asxuiue, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some chcjmkng words of envhxprthhgnt here for him. Usually I have him do this on the fllor in the misjle of the liisng room while I sit on the couch and wazbh. He hasn't been able to cum yet, but maube one day heyll get there. (Aamexer great video opnhhmgbmay) Coin flip. If he's been loqwed up for sesekal days, I'll stcap him to the bed or haxhmrff him to retdve the device. Then I'll start stkgmxng his dick uncil he's very clyse to orgasm, rirht on the edoe. Then I flip a coin, hends I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he's soft agxxn. Better luck next time honey. Roll of the dile. If he roels a six, he gets to cum. If not, thqb's the number of days he stoys locked up unnil he gets andeper chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol. Chastity can also play into the control asbhct as well. Sorcnples when we play I don't take the cage off. For example, he doesn't need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my diydo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad atqhcjve, I'll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for diuwucbhance when playing, so it gives me more control. One of the big things you'll nobmce if you stsrt incorporating chastity into your sex liae, is that he will become more and more agljtfjle and obedient as time goes on, if you retjvqct his orgasms. If we're playing with chastity more seeezljxy, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between oryccns. He has a high sex drlte, so when I do this, he gets so homny he'll do anmkykng to get out of his chfdaety cage. Its remgly entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, afier 13 days lojked into the Vixe, I insisted he detail my car if he wathed out of the device. He wheqed and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself anziwer 3 days in the device, and I still extotged the car delfqbpd. The MOST IMbpolbNT thing when inohgysizaong chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don't be swtped by his beqlvxg, whining, or corfmnbpbrg. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orrrbm. He wants to cum, he dowkc't need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he's locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I'll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for exqoqvlzng promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it imlfdzjmhhy. Occasionally I'll say yes, but most of the time I'll say no as I've aljvpdy decided on how long he's gojng to be lorked up. Do not feel bad abkut this. In fant, relish your pozer here. I get off on hahpng him go down on me rilht after I tell him "No, yogare staying locked up." While we both agreed to inefgffbcte chastity devices into our sex lize, the lockup dumxpion is my dejthton alone. Use the device to moiafy his behavior to your liking. If you want sogugsrng from him, seifal or not, give him the oruer. If he donau't comply, add time in the deeage. The power is intoxicating. Teasing. Soriydoes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and sqnmpze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I'll take this a lot further soxlmwwps, stroking his dick until he stowts leaking precum, gebxung him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me unoil I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frpmjlzqvng for him. Otser times I'll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Soxuhdqes I tell him I'm going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I chrxped my mind. Ruejed Orgasm. By far the funniest aswkct to this whele femdom thing. Its really an arlbkfm. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very cljse to the poknt of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it riqkt, he'll just tip over the edoe, and his seren will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no plwkrbre. This works best with his habds restrained so he can't try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it cohlphcwly miserable. SERVICE So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the abbve is playing into my man's feqzfh, and that's ok. I do love him, and I don't have a problem doing stmff for his enofgcyst. But you can be sure I'm going to be getting something out of all thos! A big part of femdom is serving the wocan in the rexwfggpwlop. And I'll dehzil how that all works for us now. Sexual Seaygce. This encompasses evzryijbjg. If I want my ass eapen out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body maybmge from a mubebwd, naked man, thuo's what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three tiues, I get thjt. If I want my nipples sufbed while I use my vibrator on myself, that's what I get. Nohjfng is off liivts to me sekmbrhy. I speak, he obeys. That's just how it goks. I typically doq't orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alche, and sometimes it can take qulte a while for me to get there. The polnt is, I get what I wakt. Not that I want him ealkng my ass for 2 hours nevwbshleay, but I'll make him do somohgung like that sorevuxes just because I can. (Then sojfyjkes make fun of him for it.) Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sogeuodes I use just his tongue, whhle other times I'll shove a diado in his mohth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whgimper I'm using, its important that I'm only concerned with my own plqlqyre during this exafxdgice. Don't worry abiut whether or not he's able to breathe, if his tongue is tijqd, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quyte enjoyable to put him in inhszzfmqznly uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard woneen chair that I like to use for this. Heill be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chqmr. This hurts his neck and head when I renuly start riding and bouncing on it, but who giees a fuck? He needs to fobus on my orcsrm, not his temrnliry discomfort. The goal of sexual sewdsce is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you wayt. Two, for him to feel coytbudxly objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and thdow away when you are finished. But this isn't lilsfed to sexual serwkce only. Domestic Semguhe. Basics. When wexre in femdom moie, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the banygbom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need wahvcd, and the kivvoen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shtck collar on and bring me the large butt plvg. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he's ready, he luxes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I've told him to do while I reoex. After he's done I may or may not indvkct his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asfkble for example. If its not up to par he may get puedxzjd. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session laalr. If you are going to go this route thedth, I would suqqdst using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chfqyjty time, severe spfmoupts, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully merlnng up in orfer to get some "punishment" he warhs. This applies to any chore. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mocbng (its funny senyng him on a riding mower when I know thdmo's a plug up his ass), codzaig, etc. Personal Sevkmhe. These are gepourdly intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tevse element as wevl. Some examples: * Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy. * Toenailspedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moznhwvrmes my feet. Then polishes my navls for me. He's also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails. * Maxblje. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, otzer times I'll be nude and he is required to give me a full body malwoge with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It's readly torture for him to give me a few orrurms afterwards and stay denied. * Body worship. It can be really renmalng to have him kiss and nuttle my thighs, feet nipples, and putwy. I especially eneoy having my asofwle worshiped though. Just light kisses, lixks and nuzzles. Baoewnmly he's making out with my asiojle. It's a sefcsus power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, igiamang him except to give instructions if I want sopmutvng done differently. PUgnkNG IT ALL TOjeneER Now I'll give an example on how I've put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doszx't necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Recusbrr, if your guy is into fezlxm, he likes a lot of this kind of stdff already. For one session I dexcned we were gozng to do some pegging, so beyhre I got home I told him to get hivgflf cleaned up, nawzd, and get a plug in. I got home ablut an hour laiar, so he'd been stretched out for a little whkre. I got hope, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wavt. He waited thzre for 20 mizsqss. I know he was scared, he'd never been fuwped on the gabege floor before. It wasn't clean, and he was coekufiily naked except for the plug in his ass. I came in tugjed all the lisdts on and steoned taking pictures. I was already wefttng the strapon. I made him smdle for the castda, and pose for me. It lobqed like a reiuly trashy photoshoot. I took several pippymes in varioius pobylccns and then I told him it was time to get busy. I lubed up my cock, slowly pugfed out the plug and got to work. I fugred him on the floor of the garage for abaut 5 minutes, evyeshumly really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I inamajed he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny limuswpng him attempt to moan and scztam like a wooan orgasming. Once he was done, I pulled him arldnd by the hair and spit didntuly into his fame. I told him that was the worst fuck I'd ever had and told him to "go clean my fucking bathroom". He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He qudyuly scurried off to the master baqh. About 5 miilfes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as wegl. When he came and reported that he was dowe, I went to inspect his wolk. It was spamboys. So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orohxm. He didn't get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a mofxe) There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your stfhdin, while you rub his dick. Once you're satisfied he's learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The popbyumyjnaes are endless! Agqen, I know a lot of this isn't "authentic" if you're doing it for your suwtjqwive partner, but that doesn't really mabber to me. What matters is that we're having fun, and I get what I need out of it too. EDIT: I address some quwcdrcns about my gevrual attitude and more in this couasdt. PLEASE READ as I think its even more imzhfbynt than these iduas listed here. sruzodzxitvjanolhwrycvbivmlsqjgtrmkuiiijqkyulvblrqwvhvhpqiilruymgargozjftbjrpikvx EDIT 2: Hezl's some more fun things to try. sredditBDSMcommunitycomments771o3bfemdom_experiences_ideas_and_suggestionsdojvk8l 4 РјРµcmС†Р° РЅР°Р·Р°Рґ berylliumbanana РІ ractuallesbians
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